Having A Negativity Detox
Ok so if you’re anything like me then you’re a generally positive person but you can get a little bit down when the inevitable negative aspects of life start piling up. I’ve decided that 2016 will be the year that I let go/cut out those negative aspects of my life. If 2015 was the year where I added extra sparkle to my life, then 2016 will be the year that I take away those aspects that are diminishing my sparkle! Here are the ways that I’m taking away the negative things that leave me feeling down in the dumps – that way I can let more positivity into my life!
We all know by now what are the better food types to choose in our day to day life. We also know that when we eat unhealthy food we see negative changes in our weight & complexion, but did you know that unhealthy food – including overly sugary, processed or deep fried food – can impact our emotional health?
So one of my four (4!! I know, right) resolutions for 2016 is to eat more positive food. More brightly coloured fruits & vegetables, good quality meat & carbohydrates. I’m going to start the year with a detox in January – no alcohol, red meat or chocolate – tough I know, but I’m going to power through! I’m also going to limit “dessert” type food for when I’m at a lovely restaurant or out with friends & family – that way, I’m still allowing myself to indulge but I’m choosing to indulge on something special & prepared by a chef.
Alright this one is a little harder for me & for anyone else. We all have those people in our lives who are always negative. They’re down in the dumps, they’re complaining or they’re just a toxic friend. It can be hard to weigh up losing someone from your circle of friends with the absence of their negativity, but I’ve realized that, in the long run, it’s always a good thing. Think about it – would you really rather stay friends with someone who treats you badly, is always running late & says nasty things about you behind your back?
Plus if I have less of these toxic friendships in my life, it leaves me room for meeting new people & reconnecting with old friends! Obviously you have to be circumspect with this tip, you can’t just unfriend everyone on Facebook or use this tactic on people you can’t avoid like immediate & work colleagues. But what you could try is sending them a simple message saying how their actions towards you make you feel & that you’re happy to work on the friendship to bring it to a more positive place but if they’re not wanting to come to the table, my advice is to just let that friendship slide. At least by sending them a message, they’ll know you’re not abandoning them for no reason & on the plus side, they might re-evaluate how they interact with you & your friendship with them may be salvageable!
Clutter is one of those things that creep up on you. You tidy up your whole house & day by day, that clutter just piles up again! The reason behind it for me in particular is pretty obvious though. When I “tidy up” I tend to just move things from one location to another, I don’t necessarily throw out anything I no longer need or want, instead I keep it “just in case” – otherwise known as the worst reason in the book! When I really stop to think about, I know that I really don’t need the dark metallic navy blue nail polish that I’ve been keeping for ages (I rarely wear colours like that & I always wear gel polish on my fingernails anyway!).
So, over the holidays (even though this sounds like approximately zero fun), I’ll be going through everything! Tossing out things that don’t fit, that I don’t need, that I don’t want & so on. De-cluttering has science-backed benefits for your health & general emotional well being, so bring on the positive vibes!
Thoughts & Positive Reinforcement
So you’re probably thinking, “Don’t worry, be happy” yep, we’ve heard it a million times. But I’m taking a different approach to the idea of positive thinking. First of all, take one day & see if you can count how many times you complain or say something negative about yourself or another person – let alone how many times you think it. The number you end up with is probably off the charts, right? When you start thinking & talking about the negative aspects of your life, you’re probably going to notice them a lot more.
Instead of dwelling on this, start the day with a positive affirmation. Put up a happy quote right next to your bed so it’s the first thing you see when you wake up or repeat a positive mantra every morning. When you feel like you’re about to make a potentially insulting comment or complain about something, think about all of the positives in your life instead. I know it’ll take a lot of practice to stop myself from complaining, but if I can do it, so can you!
These are my resolutions for next year. I’m keeping it short & to the point & focusing really on only one thing (cutting out the negativity so I can embrace more positivity) but looking at it from these four aspects. What are your resolutions for 2016?