Now before I even get started, this post is not about me telling you that I’m the happiest person in the world. It’s also not about how I’m magically never sad or lonely or despondent. Instead it’s more about how to be a happier person than I feel I am naturally & how to accentuate the positives & diminish the negatives.
This is the easiest way to make yourself feel better. Studies have been done that prove that simply by holding your mouth in a smiling position kickstarts your brain into sending out happy chemicals & endorphins. Try it now! If you’re feeling a bit glum, smile & feel that happy rush.
‘Keep smiling because life is a beautiful thing & there’s so much to smile about’ – Marilyn Monroe
2. Don’t compare
This is something I’ve honestly only just come to terms with. Repeat after me: There will always be someone slimmer, happier, richer, prettier, taller, insert adjective here. There will also always be someone whose bigger, poorer, sadder, shorter, etc. Remember that & you will stop comparing yourself to others. Be the best you.
‘Always be a first rate version of yourself & never a second rate version of someone else’ – Judy Garland.
3. A healthy version of you is a happier version of you
Make an effort to think about what you’re eating. You are literally what you eat. So if you’re eating crap, then how are you going to feel? Probably pretty crappy. I’m not saying run 10 miles every day & go vegan (I would die if I did that!). Instead maybe put some time into meal prepping your work week meals & go for a run 2-3 times a week. Once you start reaping the benefits you’ll just want to add more healthy habits to your life!
‘Let food by thy medicine & medicine be thy food’ – Hippocrates
4. Do what you love & love what you do
Ok this can sometimes be a tricky one when it comes to work. But work aside, fill your leisure time with things you love to do! It’s kind of simple right? But outside of work, do this one step first – got a to do list? Check everything off as soon as you can. Need to clean your room on Saturday? Do it first, do it efficiently & do it well. Then you’ll have the rest of the day to do things that you love to do.
When it comes to your job, think of the three tick-boxes that make up a good job: Is this job paying you well? Are you working with awesome people? Is it giving you the skills & experience you need to progress in your career?
Are you checking all three? Great! Are you ticking two? Awesome. Are you checking only one (especially the first one) or none? Maybe think about moving on.
‘Never give up on what you really want to do’ – Albert Einstein
5. Confidence – It’s always a good thing
This is one of those things where everyone can relate – we all have that one friend who is the life of the party, has confidence for days & experiences all of the positive side effects of it. Sometimes being near someone like that can almost seem like a drain on our own confidence reserves! Instead of letting that happen, build up your own confidence instead. Every morning when you wake up, look yourself in the mirror & say something super lame like, “Morning beautiful, you are going to be awesome today!” I know it sounds stupid but try it for a week & notice how your head is held high!
‘Walk like you have 3 men walking behind you’ – Oscar De La Renta
6. It’s a bad day, it’s not a bad life
This one took me a while to get to, I’m not going to lie. I am a reformed grudge-holder! You could even shorten this to ‘It’s a bad moment, not a bad day’. You have to remember that just because one bad thing has happened, it doesn’t have to ruin everything. It’s like when you’re driving, 99% of other drivers are polite but there’s that one guy who cuts you off. Why bother thinking about him? Think about all the nicer ones instead!
‘The most wasted of all days is one without laughter’ – e. e. cummings
Now I’m not a registered counsellor or psychiatrist but I’ve had my fair share of ups & downs (with quite a hefty list of downs, mind you!). Now I feel like sometimes I could’ve gone one of two ways, curled up in ball, eating chocolate all day or shrugged off the disappointment & kept on going. Now sometimes the former just happens. We’re all human & sometimes we just need a really good cry to feel better. But try to make that the exception to the rule. Build up a thick skin & learn to look for the silver lining & accentuate the positives. I know this is a little bit egotistical & I don’t know if anyone’s said it before but I’ll quote myself. This is what I live by:
‘There is always a silver lining. Sometimes you just have to look a little harder to find it’ – Lucy Tiger O’Connor